Category: relationships

Kyle

Deb Moroney

Just got off the phone with an old friend that we lost connection with many years ago. Living miles apart and each of us raising our families plus just life in general one never thinks about how important friendship really is. Upon responding to my friend’s text message from earlier today I decided to just call her and see what it was she needed to know about some things here in Tennessee. After the usual “Oh my God, how long has it been!” introduction she casually asked how I was doing. I never thought anything about this question until the next one. She then asked “So what is Kyle doing now?” I know it seemed like forever before I answered but it caught me off guard. I heartbreakingly told her what had happened to Kyle 22 months ago. At first it takes you back to the first day when all you can think about is the accident and trying to understand what has happened. My friend was shell shocked to say the least! She felt horrible for not knowing about our loss but I tried to reassure her that it was okay because not everyone is up on social media even today. I’ve always believed that the more I talk to others about Kyle the easier it gets. Not always true in circumstances like this. I’m just sorry that I didn’t call them and tell them myself when it happened but I know my brain wasn’t working properly and when the fog started to lift it just seemed hard to remember who I had told and those I hadn’t. Maybe someday it will get easier but not right now. My heart is still broken in a million pieces. Not a minute of a day passes that I don’t think of Kyle. I go to sleep and wake up multiple times thinking of him. As a mother probably would checking on her newborn baby, I guess I can only relate my wakefulness periods during the night to my time spent with Kyle. I pray daily that others won’t have to experience this terrible emptiness. However it seems to happen even despite my prayers. I ask Kyle to always watch over us, to help guide us along our journey, and to give us the strength to get through each day. Please ask us about him! As painful as it might be, we both enjoy telling his story. As for my friend, I pray she can hug her now college age children more tightly and overlook the little things in life to focus on the true meaning of their gift of life and love.
Peace to all and hugs to my dear son, Kyle. My Z Boy!
Deb (ZBOYMOM)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Sadness of Relationships

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Amparo Atencio

What can I say about relationships after the loss of a child? They change. Many of them change for the worse. It could be because grief is such an emotionally exhausting journey, that you just don’t have what it takes to hold up your end of a relationship for a while. A long while. It could be because grief takes you on a long, lonely, isolating road, and many can’t be on that road with you as long as you need to be, if at all.

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