Tracy BradshawDear Sawyer, I rummaged through your toybox and gathered a stocking full of cars, monkeys, a Taco Bell kid meal toy, spinning tops, and a mini Mr. Potatohead. I found the clock floor puzzle that you loved, your tub of Legos, your purple and black pajamas, and many more things to place under the tree for Christmas morning. Sawbear had a big Christmas, and I cried as I missed you and all the past Christmases we shared. While I am very grateful for the eighteen years that we got to celebrate Christmas together, it is just about impossible to focus on being grateful when I still feel robbed. I busied myself organizing the ornaments and taking pictures all the while remembering you with these small treasures in your hands. With each careful hanging there was a memory, and I let myself go there. I basked in the flood of memories, smiling and crying at the same time. Thankful and robbed, appreciative and angry, happy and sad, the feelings were extreme and hit simultaneously. Having your collection out made me miss you more and grief was heightened. Maybe I needed that this year, I don’t know. I love you, Sawyer. I miss you, and I miss you decorating the tree with me, getting so excited over finding the pickle, hiding your beaded candle ornament you made at preschool, getting cookies ready for Santa, opening too many presents, playing with new toys, building with blocks or Legos, putting together puzzles, spending more time together, and living our traditions. Love, Mom |
Christmas Letter to Sawyer
categories: holidays in grief, Journey